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Divorce: Women petitioned for it 93% of the time  
ivaluemyprivacy at mailblocks.com
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connor_a at hotmail.com
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occupant
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S.Taylor
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From:ivaluemyprivacy at mailblocks.com
Subject:Divorce: Women petitioned for it 93% of the time
Date:23 Jan 2005 07:37:12 -0800
I would have thought this statistic should have got more attention.
On some coverage it doesn't seem to be even mentioned!
"..93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned for divorce."



http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4198951.stm

Affairs 'main reason for divorce'

The number of divorces caused by family strains rose in 2004
Extra-marital affairs are still the number one reason for divorces, a
new survey has revealed.
But family strains and emotional or physical abuse have shown
significant increases as other causes, the survey of UK matrimonial
lawyers showed.

Adulterous behaviour accounted for 27% of all cases in 2004, down from
a total of 29% in the previous year.

The survey also found that 13% of marriages in 2004 ended because of
mid-life crises.

'Co-operative'

The number of divorces caused by family strains rose from 11% in 2003
to 18% while the figure for emotional or physical abuse rose from 10%
to 17%.

The first five years of any marriage is pretty much divorce-free and
if the union last beyond 20 it looks set for life

Toni Pincott, matrimonial expert

Toni Pincott, a matrimonial expert with Grant Thornton's forensic
practice which conducted the survey, said: "Divorce is becoming much
more co-operative than it ever was with very few divorces now ending up
in court.

"According to our survey's results, the first five years of any
marriage is pretty much divorce-free and if the union lasts beyond 20
it looks set for life."

MAIN REASONS FOR DIVORCE 2004
Extra-marital affair - 27%
Family strains - 18%
Abuse - 17%
Mid-life crisis - 13%
Addictions - 6%
Workaholism - 6%
Source: Grant Thornton

In divorces triggered by extra-marital affairs, men were three times
more likely to be adulterous than women while 78% of those which were
the result of family strains involved the families of women compared to
12% involving men's.

The survey found that, 93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned
for divorce.

And in 2004, women achieved a better or considerably better settlement
than men 60% of the time.

Pre-nuptial agreements continued to increase in popularity with more
than 98% of matrimonial lawyers reporting higher or similar demand for
these services than in the previous year.
From:connor_a at hotmail.com
Subject:Re: Divorce: Women petitioned for it 93% of the time
Date:23 Jan 2005 15:10:01 -0800
I'd like feminists to take over American men 100% to dominate them to
the extent that islamic dicks would be able to enter america like never
before and give it to the feminists.
From:occupant
Subject:Re: Divorce: Women petitioned for it 93% of the time
Date:Sun, 23 Jan 2005 16:39:52 GMT
ivaluemyprivacy@mailblocks.com wrote:
>
> I would have thought this statistic should have got more attention.
> On some coverage it doesn't seem to be even mentioned!
> "..93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned for divorce."
>
> http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4198951.stm
>
> Affairs 'main reason for divorce'
>
Well, as any woman will tell you, if there is one affair while the guy
is in his
20s, there will be more no matter what the promises. Some women can
life with
infidility and others can't.

> The number of divorces caused by family strains rose in 2004.

Seems reasonble. Millions are being spend fighting same marriage
when
the family unit has never been in more touble. Houses and vehicles are
just about priced only for the rich. Often both parents have to work.
The cost of children is minimum 15 dollars per day per child and the
additonal cost
of daycare is 50 per day per child and on what salary? Yes, it is true
there are
family stains.

> Extra-marital affairs are still the number one reason for divorces, a
> new survey has revealed.
> But family strains and emotional or physical abuse have shown
> significant increases as other causes, the survey of UK matrimonial
> lawyers showed.
>
> Adulterous behaviour accounted for 27% of all cases in 2004, down from
> a total of 29% in the previous year.
>
> The survey also found that 13% of marriages in 2004 ended because of
> mid-life crises.
>
> 'Co-operative'
>
> The number of divorces caused by family strains rose from 11% in 2003
> to 18% while the figure for emotional or physical abuse rose from 10%
> to 17%.
>
> The first five years of any marriage is pretty much divorce-free and
> if the union last beyond 20 it looks set for life
>
Well, of course there is sound reasoning for that. Assuming the average
couple
marry at 25 and they consider divorce at 30, they are still young enough
to think
that a different spouse will make a difference and young enough that a
new potential
spouse to be is out their waiting for them to ask them for their hand in
marriage.

By the time any married couple reaches mid 40s to 50s they know the true
cost of divorce,
the slim pickings on the market place as well as the imperfections they
have to offer a new
spouse who would be no better than the one they are considering dumping.



> Toni Pincott, matrimonial expert
>
> Toni Pincott, a matrimonial expert with Grant Thornton's forensic
> practice which conducted the survey, said: "Divorce is becoming much
> more co-operative than it ever was with very few divorces now ending up
> in court.
>

There is enough divorce history on the planet for couples to realzie
that if they
add up the value of all their assets and then divide it by the number of
people they
ask to help in their divorce, and the spouses get their share, too.
Dumb. Nobody
knows your spouse you want to dump better than you do and probably
nobody is better
equipped to deal with him/her than you are.

> "According to our survey's results, the first five years of any
> marriage is pretty much divorce-free and if the union lasts beyond 20
> it looks set for life."
>
> MAIN REASONS FOR DIVORCE 2004
> Extra-marital affair - 27%
> Family strains - 18%
> Abuse - 17%
> Mid-life crisis - 13%
> Addictions - 6%
> Workaholism - 6%
> Source: Grant Thornton
>
> In divorces triggered by extra-marital affairs, men were three times
> more likely to be adulterous than women while 78% of those which were
> the result of family strains involved the families of women compared to
> 12% involving men's.
>
>

In polite language, women often get a headache when the marriage is
strained.
Men on the other hand go for a beer when the marriage is strained.
Women ask their men to listen which is really telling him, it is this
way or the highway.
If the guy doesn't agree he buys time by saying okay and hopes time
passes quickly.

Eventually after bringing home the paycheck week after week, and no
resolve, his mind and body begin to wonder, and wonder it does to
another woman.

> The survey found that, 93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned
> for divorce.
>
Makes sense. If he can't live up to your standard, he is no good to
you.

> And in 2004, women achieved a better or considerably better settlement
> than men 60% of the time.

Seems reasonable. If men new the true cost of marriage they wouldn't
get married.
If men new the true cost of divorce, they would keep their affairs
secret and let
the wife yell and scream and throw stuff and just agree. Very cost
effective.

>
> Pre-nuptial agreements continued to increase in popularity with more
> than 98% of matrimonial lawyers reporting higher or similar demand for
> these services than in the previous year.

Pre-nuptials are of limited use, a false sense of security, and a real
money maker for the legal
profession. It is sort of like home insurance, you never really win and
the losses are always expensive and huge.
From:S.Taylor
Subject:Re: Divorce: Women petitioned for it 93% of the time
Date:Mon, 24 Jan 2005 06:09:44 +0800
Feminists work hard to surpress this number.



On 23 Jan 2005 07:37:12 -0800, ivaluemyprivacy@mailblocks.com wrote:
>I would have thought this statistic should have got more attention.
>On some coverage it doesn't seem to be even mentioned!
>"..93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned for divorce."
>http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4198951.stm
>
>Affairs 'main reason for divorce'
>
>The number of divorces caused by family strains rose in 2004
>Extra-marital affairs are still the number one reason for divorces, a
>new survey has revealed.
>But family strains and emotional or physical abuse have shown
>significant increases as other causes, the survey of UK matrimonial
>lawyers showed.
>
>Adulterous behaviour accounted for 27% of all cases in 2004, down from
>a total of 29% in the previous year.
>
>The survey also found that 13% of marriages in 2004 ended because of
>mid-life crises.
>
>'Co-operative'
>
>The number of divorces caused by family strains rose from 11% in 2003
>to 18% while the figure for emotional or physical abuse rose from 10%
>to 17%.
>
>The first five years of any marriage is pretty much divorce-free and
>if the union last beyond 20 it looks set for life
>
>Toni Pincott, matrimonial expert
>
>Toni Pincott, a matrimonial expert with Grant Thornton's forensic
>practice which conducted the survey, said: "Divorce is becoming much
>more co-operative than it ever was with very few divorces now ending up
>in court.
>
>"According to our survey's results, the first five years of any
>marriage is pretty much divorce-free and if the union lasts beyond 20
>it looks set for life."
>
>MAIN REASONS FOR DIVORCE 2004
>Extra-marital affair - 27%
>Family strains - 18%
>Abuse - 17%
>Mid-life crisis - 13%
>Addictions - 6%
>Workaholism - 6%
>Source: Grant Thornton
>
>In divorces triggered by extra-marital affairs, men were three times
>more likely to be adulterous than women while 78% of those which were
>the result of family strains involved the families of women compared to
>12% involving men's.
>
>The survey found that, 93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned
>for divorce.
>
>And in 2004, women achieved a better or considerably better settlement
>than men 60% of the time.
>
>Pre-nuptial agreements continued to increase in popularity with more
>than 98% of matrimonial lawyers reporting higher or similar demand for
>these services than in the previous year.
From:ivaluemyprivacy at mailblocks.com
Subject:Re: Divorce: Women petitioned for it 93% of the time
Date:23 Jan 2005 12:34:31 -0800

ivaluemyprivacy@mailblocks.com wrote:
> I would have thought this statistic should have got more attention.
> On some coverage it doesn't seem to be even mentioned!
> "..93% of the time, it was women who had petitioned for divorce."
>
>
>
> http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4198951.stm
>
> Affairs 'main reason for divorce'
>

http://scotlandonsunday.scotsman.com/uk.cfm?id=85622005

It's not just the stars who have X factor in divorces

EDDIE BARNES


THE philandering of celebrities can be viewed as something distant from
reality but new research has shown that adulterous husbands and wives
are by far the main cause of Britain's record-high rates of divorce.

A poll of the UK's matrimonial lawyers found that suburban versions
of the lives of Noel Gallagher and Meg Matthews are played out across
Britain.

Despite the continuing appeal of marriage to most Britons, 27% of
divorces were caused by extra-marital affairs. With 10,500 divorces
taking place in Scotland every year, it suggests that around 2,800
affairs are to blame for marriage break-ups.

Unsurprisingly, the survey found that George Best was not alone, with
husbands three times as likely as their wives to cheat, accounting for
75% of divorces caused by adultery.

And contrary to popular belief in the seven-year-itch, the study
concluded that marriages are at their most vulnerable between the 10th
and 15th year, when more than 50% of divorces occur.

While adultery is the largest reason for divorce, the survey, by Grant
Thornton's Forensic Practice, found that other causes - including the
stress of having to cope with in-laws - were becoming more widespread.

Those who cited strains within the extended families as the reason for
divorce rose from 11% to 18% in the last year.

Within that category, the wife's family were cited as the core reason
in 78% of cases, perhaps indicating that the caricature of the
interfering mother-in-law still holds water.

More worryingly, the survey revealed that emotional or physical abuse
caused 17% of marriage breakdowns last year - also up on the 2003
figure of 10%.

Other major factors leading to divorce included mid-life crisis (13%),
workaholism (6%) and addictions such as alcoholism and gambling (6%).

The survey also found that fewer divorces now end up in court, with
bickering partners more likely to settle rather than face a lengthy
legal battle.

A spokeswoman for Relate, the counselling service for married couples,
agreed last night that adultery in modern Britain was as strong as
ever. She said: "More and more people are coming to us reporting
affairs, although not every case always ends in divorce and many
couples manage to come through and continue their relationship." But,
she added, modern marriages were coming under strain from a whole range
of different pressures.

"There is the strain of increasing numbers of people working away from
home. There are problems when it comes to finding a school for
children, especially if good schools are over-subscribed. Then there is
the issue about working parents and who does what, when and how. Even
when there is one partner at home looking after the children, divorces
occur because that is not valued," she said.

"We have to recognise the increasing complexity of families. If you
have a family with its own set of beliefs trying to integrate with
another family with its own set of beliefs, there is bound to be a
rub.We have to start looking at how to manage and integrate different
beliefs into a relationship," she added.

In Scotland, divorce rates rose from 4,812 in 1971, to a high of 13,133
in 1994. It has now fallen back slightly, and stood at 10,484 in 2003.

Thomas Millar, a family law specialist and partner at John Henderson &
Sons in Dumfries, said divorce rates had remained consistently high in
recent years north of the Border.

"There probably hasn't been much change over the last four or five
years but people are much more aware of the option. One in three
marriages now end in divorce," he said.

While adultery is still blamed for many divorces, the increase in the
divorce rate is also put down to the welcome rise in awareness among
women who suffer domestic abuse.

Millar said: "People now know that they can do more about it, rather
than just putting up with it. That has made a difference," he said.

Toni Pincott, a matrimonial expert in financial settlements with Grant
Thornton, said the survey had thrown up a revealing insight into when
marriages were at their most vulnerable.

"According to our survey's results, 53% of all divorces tend to occur
in marriages lasting between 10 and 15 years with a further 40% ending
earlier, between five and 10 years.

"The first five years of any marriage is pretty much divorce-free and
if the union lasts beyond 20 years it looks set for life," she added.

Among other findings, the survey discovered that in the vast majority
of cases (93% of the time) it is the women who petition for divorce.

Women achieved a better or considerably better settlement than men 60%
of the time.
-------------------------------
An interesting aspect of this is that it gives the impression that 75%
of the affairs in marriages are done by the man. However this is only
in the cases involving divorce. Many marriages won't break up when
there's an affair and given that men are much much less likely to seek
a divorce in general (93% vs 7%), it seems possible that the men are
more willing not to look for a divorce in this situation and that other
figures such as 55:45 male:female adulterers could still be correct.
   

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